Tips for Safe Online Dating

We do not conduct background checks on any members, including Cupids, so please follow reasonable safety tips. The following tips are not meant to be all inclusive and are not guaranteed to maintain your safety. Dating and use of this site is at your own risk.

Keep Your Anonymity for Awhile
Use our internal mail system to communicate with other members, including those chosen by a Cupid. Be careful choosing your username to ensure it does not disclose too much personal information.

Use Common Sense
Go slowly with new contacts and get to know the person via messaging first. Then proceed to phone calls if you still feel safe, attracted, and curious. Finally, setup a first date when the time is right.

Proceed Slowly and Listen to Your Instinct
Take everything at your pace. Always talk to the other person by telephone at least once before agreeing to meet for your first date. Ask for a photo (if they didn't provide one in their profile) so that you can be assured of meeting the right person. Be on the lookout for inconsistencies in their history or any stories they tell you of their life, background, or growing up. Ask informative questions of the other person to ensure they match what and who they say they are in their profile.

Don't feel the need to give out your phone number if you're not comfortable doing so. Instead, ask for theirs and remember to put in the code for blocking caller ID before making the call.

Remember, you don't have to meet everyone you communicate with online. Some people will obviously not be right for you and you can politely say so before ever progressing to a phone call or first date. Online dating empowers you to make choices that are right for you. So feel free to make those choices, even if you are typically unused to doing so.

First Dates Should Be in Public
Agree to meet in a public place. It ensures that both of you are on your best behavior while still allowing you the opportunity to see how your match behaves in a public situation. Be an astute observer during that first date and don't drink too much (if you drink at all).

Be on the Lookout for Red Flags
People are generally on their best behavior for the first few dates, so look for clues that may indicate a lack of honesty such as avoiding answering questions directly or inconsistencies about basic information in their profile (marital status, children, employment, age, education, career, etc).